Ah, the "but." Here's one thing men can do to help: When you see other men behaving this way, tell them to knock it off. When you see your friends acting this way, tell them to knock it off. What we almost NEVER see are men telling other men to alter their behavior. What I see time and time again are women having to defend themselves or other women. I have stood up for women and girls being harassed by men and boys in public several times. I have yet to see a man speak up.

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