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Break Free From the Narcissist in Your Life Now

It’s worth it

Amber Fraley
4 min readNov 17, 2021

It’s fairly easy for toxic narcissists to grab hold of people with typical levels of empathy, get a stranglehold on them, and yet the “normal” will keep coming back again and again for more abuse. Why? Because the typical person with a normal empathetic response to other human beings cannot begin to fathom the depths to which the narcissist just doesn’t care about other people. We have an almost impossible time wrapping our brains around the concept that some people are literally incapable of having compassion for anyone but themselves, and our empathy ends up trapping us.

Narcissists love to paint a picture of themselves as misunderstood, maligned geniuses, and there is no end of compassionate, even sensitive, people out there who are more than willing to sacrifice themselves to try to make the narcissist feel happy and fulfilled, because a narcissist’s life is almost always full of self-pitying drama. The problem it’s impossible. A truly toxic narcissist’s needs can never be met because they are deep wells of insecurity and self-hatred, and no matter how much love, loyalty and sacrifice you pour down their well, it will always be empty.

Now, an empathetic person will read the above paragraph and naturally feel sorry for the person who is so obviously damaged. “Everyone deserves…

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Amber Fraley
Amber Fraley

Written by Amber Fraley

Writing about abortion rights, mental illness, trauma, narcissistic abuse & survival, politics. Journalist, novelist, wife, mom, Kansan, repro rights activist.

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