I did have a bad dad, but that’s not why I’m discounting men. Not at all. I see it ALL THE TIME. My friends have HORRIBLE stories about husbands who won’t help with kids or around the house. And you know what? The research bears this out. I am lucky to be married to a WONDERFUL man who does treat me like an equal and who helps out equally with housework and child care. But the truth of the matter is, he is rare. I have a male friend who’s ex-wife is INSANE. He is hands-down the better caretaker of their kids and I support his getting full custody. But let’s be realistic here and face FACTS.