I Will Continue to Write About My Lived Experiences
As the child of two toxic narcissists
More and more I’m seeing a backlash against Medium pieces about narcissists and borderline personality disorder. Usually the argument is that if you’re not a doctor or a licensed therapist you should not be diagnosing people and then writing about them on the internet. You should just keep your mouth shut.
In principle, I agree with this. In practice? Not so much.
Why? Because living with a true, toxic narcissist for years and years is to live with abuse, every single day. You can never really relax or be yourself. You never know when the narcissist will blow up, or accuse you of doing something horrible you didn’t do, or even go so far as to make up entire conversations you never had, then convince you you’re the one losing your mind if you can’t remember said conversation.
Often, people who have lived through abuse need to talk about it. I don’t think it’s healthy to dwell on it all the time, because replaying abuse in your head is a very real symptom of CPTSD. Still, sharing your experience is important for several reasons.
First and foremost, sharing stories of abuse is important because abuse lives and thrives in silence. That’s how abusers are able to get away with what they do. They…
