In 2017–2019, 65.3% of women aged 15–49 in the United States were currently using contraception. https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db388.htm

Male contraception use has gone up to a little over 50%.

40% of households with children are female-only-led.

"The body inside your body is clearly 'my' body and the fact I and the rest of society have a responsbility mitigates the entire my body my self argument."

The body inside a woman's body is also HER body. Not yours. If that body is eventually born, then that body belongs to THAT person. Not you. (We don't "own" our children. We're responsible for them.) People who create children are legally responsible for those children. Men can petition to renounce fatherhood rights, but you can't just go around creating children and not pay for them. You also cannot force someone else to abort their pregnancy and you should not have the right to force them to carry it, either.

"EITHER it is in fact that and neither men nor society are responsible or the fact you choose to get pregnant and other people are responsible as well for the choice imparts some say to other people."

Women can't choose to become pregnant. Either we do or we don't. (Even with medical intervention we can't ever just CHOOSE to be pregnant.) Men make the choice to deposit your ejaculate into a woman.

It's a shame you have so much trouble understanding that women have bodily autonomy just as you do. If you don't want to risk becoming a father, take responsibility for YOUR body.