Men: Don’t Want to Pay For Your Kids?

Then vote for women’s rights

Amber Fraley
3 min readMay 5, 2023

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Photo by Katherine Hanlon on Unsplash

In the abortion debate, I often hear men who are upset that women can choose when to become a mother but men can’t always choose when to become a father, and in a sense, that’s true — men cannot choose abortion, at least not legally. If he gets a woman pregnant, she is the only one who can choose whether or not she keeps the pregnancy.

If it were true that only a few men walk away from their children, and if we treated women equally in this society, I honestly wouldn’t even care if a few men here and there didn’t contribute financially to children they lent their DNA to make. For real.

But that’s not the case. In reality — in the US at least — men skip out on their financial support of their kids all the time. It’s rampant, to the tune of billions of dollars, and that becomes a drain on society. Single mothers tend to be far poorer than anyone else, and when Dad doesn’t help financially, those single moms are forced to turn to the government for assistance to feed and house their kids.

That means every “mistake” men make in getting someone pregnant who doesn’t want to be, the rest of us have to pay for. Literally. This is bullshit.

If men in the US want to be able to skip out on fatherhood 100%, well then, men need to vote for…

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Amber Fraley

Writing about abortion rights, mental illness, trauma, narcissistic abuse & survival, politics. Journalist, novelist, wife, mom, Kansan, repro rights activist.