Rape is Basically Legal

And I’m not even kidding

Amber Fraley
4 min readSep 24, 2023

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Photo by Grant Durr on Unsplash

I don’t like writing these things. I swear I don’t. But lately I’ve noticed an incredible anxiety among American men about being falsely accused of rape and having their lives “ruined.” They talk about it in a panic, as if thousands and thousands of innocent men are locked up in prison on false rape accusations.

The truth is we’re are so far from that mythical scenario most men probably have a better chance of being imprisoned for false murder charges than false rape charges. But the number of men out there who honestly believe will all their hearts there’s a real threat of them being falsely accused of and punished for rape is astounding, especially when you consider the cold, hard facts:

Rape is the least reported crime in the US, as in most societies. In the US, it’s estimated that only about a third of rapes are reported to authorities. Why? Because rapists generally aren’t held accountable, so there’s no reason for victims to through the invasive, time consuming, often demeaning process of reporting. Reporting a rape to the authorities means a mandatory trip to a hospital where the victim is required to strip naked while medical staff checks them over, takes photos of their bodies to document any injuries, as well as DNA swabs from various orifices, in case you didn’t know. This is a nearly impossible task…

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Amber Fraley

Writing about abortion rights, mental illness, trauma, narcissistic abuse & survival, politics. Journalist, novelist, wife, mom, Kansan, repro rights activist.