Strategies for Setting Up Boundaries with Toxic Family Members

Amber Fraley
6 min readMar 5, 2019

“Create boundaries!” Is something we often hear when it comes to dealing with abusive and toxic people in our lives, but what does that mean, in practical terms? Here are a few concrete strategies I’ve learned over the years to successfully take back control from the toxic family members in my life:

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Amber Fraley

1Writing about abortion rights, mental illness, trauma, narcissistic abuse & survival, politics. Journalist, novelist, wife, mom, Kansan, repro rights activist.