This is not about men and women seeing this differently. This is about controlling, often abusive men who see this issue differently. Controlling conservative men do not like that American women want to be equals. It’s easier for conservative men to purchase a wife from some a less affluent country overseas because she’s indebted to him in a new country and he can control and often abuse her. As with everything else concerning conservatives, this is about narcissism and control. Many mail order brides end up abused or dead.