What I am saying is “I will NOT accept your abuse. Period.” I’m done. I’ve endured enough and I will not endure any more. If she wants a relationship with me, she needs to work at it too. But she refuses. I am always the one who is supposed to make concessions to her abusive behavior. But yes, that sort of inner monologue is where the guilt comes from. I still have those thoughts. Am I being too harsh? Did I overreact? And then I remember everyone else has walked away from her too. It’s not just me.