"What many women seem to want is the special ladders. And they don’t want any small or large men getting the special ladders. They want to be treated as special - treated as MORE than equal. REAL equality helps everyone. Everyone should have the same protections and opportunities."

What in the world are you even talking about? Of course we would want the men to have the special ladders. We want life to be better for EVERYONE, not just women. Speaking as someone who is a feminist who knows many feminists, I don't know a single woman who thinks like what you describe. Most of us have families. We see not only our own struggles, but how misogyny also abuses men, particularly poor men.