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When A Man Proclaims “Women Are the Gatekeepers of Sex”

A thousand vajajays slam shut

Amber Fraley
4 min readApr 15, 2023
Image by Engin Akyurt from Pixabay

Sometimes I have to pinch the shit out of myself to confirm that yes, this is 2023, because the way some men in the US still talk about women sounds like something that comes straight out of the Paleolithic Age.

“Women are the gatekeepers of sex!” These relics proclaim, with utter certainty.

BLARF.

I honestly cannot tell if they believe it, or if they just like saying it because they get a weird, rapish kink from publicly proclaiming pregnancy is always, always, always the fault of the woman, because she’s the one who “opened her legs.”

Yes! When you get your first period your woman gate is installed, and if you let anyone breach your entrance, well that’s your fault you dirty whore.

Look, I understand your Pa told you that when you were ten years old in 1968, and you loved him dearly, but your Pa was wrong. Your Pa probably learned that from his Pa, and his Pa was born at the end of the Victorian Era.

Nowadays we understand unauthorized, unprotected dicking is not okay. Neither is coercive or deceptive dicking, because it’s the dicking and the breaching that causes most of the problems, not improper gatekeeping.

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Amber Fraley
Amber Fraley

Written by Amber Fraley

Writing about abortion rights, mental illness, trauma, narcissistic abuse & survival, politics. Journalist, novelist, wife, mom, Kansan, repro rights activist.

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