Yeah, you are a stupid lot. And whiny, too. Which is so funny, because we women have given you thousands of years to get your shit together. There are still fewer than 5% of CEO positions occupied by women. Jobs that are traditionally considered “women’s work,” teaching, social work, nursing, childcare, elder care, pay for shit. In occupations that were traditionally male but now have a larger influx of women, like journalism, pay goes down. I, and most of my women friends, have personal stories of discovering newly hired men who are offered more money than we make up front. (I know, personal anecdotes don’t count.) Pregnancy is a whole other issue. You sound like a Brit, so at least you have some maternity leave there. Here we have JACK SHIT. I won’t bother to go into the multitude of ways that fucks us over financially and career-wise. Here in the states, most of the volunteer work is done by women, because dudes have been so conditioned against working for free. Thankfully, that attitude is changing amongst younger men.

Finally, the issue of picking up the check is not just about wage disparity. It’s a good faith gesture on the part of the dude, since women are often taking a HUGE risk going on a date with a man. We meet you in public places to ensure we don’t end up in pieces in a trash bag. You picking up the check is a SMALL price to pay to show a little civility. I cannot tell you the number of women I know who have been date raped. All we want is equal pay and equal respect. Nothing more, nothing less.

Are things getting better for us? Absolutely! Do we still have a long way to go? Hell yes. But we will get there, because women are tenacious bitches.

Writer, Kansan, wife, mom, essayist, journalist, reproductive rights activist, Jayhawk, dork. Support me on Patreon! amberfraley. com @KSAbortionFund

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