You’re right. Generally, though, when people discuss toxic narcissism there’s almost always abuse involved. I just don’t understand how someone could get to be so selfish and cruel just because. Rev. Heller mentioned, for instance, the neurologist who discovered he’s a sociopath, but he can at least fake empathy for the people around him because he knows that’s important to them. My dad is getting to the place that almost no one speaks to him anymore and yet he still can’t seem to regulate his behavior. I can’t even fathom treating my daughter the way he treats my brother and me.